I'm amused, in that I'm sorta in DY's position; a friend asked me to talk with a friend of theirs about internships at Zillian (sure, 1hr conversation, fun), and that person asked me if I could find someone who'd actually had an intern at Zillian who would be willing to talk to them. I emailed my group mailing list asking for volunteers, and got crickets (which actually surprised me). But I'm not offended by that--everyone makes the best judgement on where they can/should spend their time.
Actually, now that I think about it, even more relevant: I had a friend (LOAL) ask me to refer him to someone at my company ("Just give me a name") about some activist work he was doing, and I wasn't willing to without getting the buy-in of the person who's name I would be giving him. Which I didn't get. So no name passed back.
Which I think means: If I don't think a referral is welcome, I'm not willing to do it, and I'll check in first with the person before making the referral. But if I think I've presented my knowledge or lack of knowledge of the person accurately I'd be willing to refer FOFOFs with the consent of the target.
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Actually, now that I think about it, even more relevant: I had a friend (LOAL) ask me to refer him to someone at my company ("Just give me a name") about some activist work he was doing, and I wasn't willing to without getting the buy-in of the person who's name I would be giving him. Which I didn't get. So no name passed back.
Which I think means: If I don't think a referral is welcome, I'm not willing to do it, and I'll check in first with the person before making the referral. But if I think I've presented my knowledge or lack of knowledge of the person accurately I'd be willing to refer FOFOFs with the consent of the target.