Linky (two heavy, two light)
Punched Out -- it's rare to read an explanation of suicide this cogent and grounding. It makes me sad that more neurotypical folks did such a bad job of dealing with this man while he was alive, though. People are often very quick to anger when there's a perceived slight.
I found the best anagram in English is a fun read if you're a crossover wordplay/programming nerd, with some very satisfying anagrams as a final payoff (excitation and intoxicate)! I won't give away the best one, but it's VERY good.
A "5 questions" self-help thing that I rather liked; first for the sheer chutzpah of claiming "Buddhism, Stoicism and neuroscience" as a combined source, and second for the content. I particularly like "Does the world owe me this?" and "Must I have this to have a happy life?".
A Silicon Valley abuse story, in which physical abuse and death threats are judged "offensive touch" and the abuser is given less than 30 days in jail, is a link you probably shouldn't read. I found it more disturbing than anything I've read in quite a long time. Some of the abuse-scene transcripts (which she recorded on an iPhone) read much like BDSM scenes, having the same sort of, well, silliness to them. Except there's the most horrible crossover into the realm of her professional knowledge (“What is a bug?” he asks. “Come on, bitch! What is a bug?”), and the whole thing of demeaning her, and blaming her for things is done without consent (“You don’t want to get beaten up?” he asks. “Then control yourself”). It's about a million miles away from the in-joke between![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
norwoodbridge and me about how everything is my fault... and when he hits her it's not because they both like it, and there's no safeword. Not only was this article hard for me to get through, I think I finally understand why BDSM scenes are upsetting to some people. Ugh.
I found the best anagram in English is a fun read if you're a crossover wordplay/programming nerd, with some very satisfying anagrams as a final payoff (excitation and intoxicate)! I won't give away the best one, but it's VERY good.
A "5 questions" self-help thing that I rather liked; first for the sheer chutzpah of claiming "Buddhism, Stoicism and neuroscience" as a combined source, and second for the content. I particularly like "Does the world owe me this?" and "Must I have this to have a happy life?".
A Silicon Valley abuse story, in which physical abuse and death threats are judged "offensive touch" and the abuser is given less than 30 days in jail, is a link you probably shouldn't read. I found it more disturbing than anything I've read in quite a long time. Some of the abuse-scene transcripts (which she recorded on an iPhone) read much like BDSM scenes, having the same sort of, well, silliness to them. Except there's the most horrible crossover into the realm of her professional knowledge (“What is a bug?” he asks. “Come on, bitch! What is a bug?”), and the whole thing of demeaning her, and blaming her for things is done without consent (“You don’t want to get beaten up?” he asks. “Then control yourself”). It's about a million miles away from the in-joke between
norwoodbridge and me about how everything is my fault... and when he hits her it's not because they both like it, and there's no safeword. Not only was this article hard for me to get through, I think I finally understand why BDSM scenes are upsetting to some people. Ugh.
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http://adamcadre.ac/17lyttle.html
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The "misfit". Oh holy fuck. That's me writing, right there. I am not, per se, borderline autistic. I'm high-functioning asperger's but that right there? That is my mental life, pretty much every day. I'm a third of the way through this and I completely understand why this guy would off himself.
The Meyers-Briggs stuff pisses me off. It's so very wrong. I have no time to explain why it's so wrong, but dear gods it's just about as wrong as astrology.
And now he's talking about lies. I used to say that I have a Klingon's sense of honor. Lying is actually painful; being lied to even moreso. You'd be bored if I continued reciting all the bits of that essay I nod along with and say "Yes, exactly." I'll just say that one of the most insightful things anyone ever said to me was a former boss who had a flash of insight and said, "You're organizationally tone-deaf, aren't you?" I agreed that was a very apt summation.
My coping strategies are, I think, better than this guy's. Also, I'm a stubborn bastard who wouldn't give his enemies the satisfaction of taking himself out. Nowadays I have fewer enemies.
OK, I've reached the end and I see a couple things more clearly now. I'm sorry, I'll post responses to the other links later.
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The five questions thing is entirely reasonable but it seems to depend on the "slow" thinking part of the brain coming into play. Part of the point of Thinking Fast and Slow is that this isn't always possible. The things that the article lists, to which we respond, are things that trigger our fast circuits, for better or worse. I don't know how to rewire that bit of neural matter but I am reasonably convinced that meditation has a shot at it. By which I mean, regular meditative practice.
You're right that the Beast story was hard to read though I was less disturbed by the actual abuse than by the description of how she was treated afterward and the substitute judge's obvious attempts to avoid publicly blaming the (female!!) judge who approved the awful deal in the first place. What a travesty.