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Stupid breeder friends, thudding sounds, and a book.
Just got a letter from editor bear that really underscores a difference in how we see life. Ugh... what a mindless breeder he really is. Enter babies stage left, exit all rational thought stage right. But if he wants to have a huge family (which he really can't afford, and admits will be a problem come college-time even if it isn't before, and admits is a shitty thing to do to the environment) and justify it all by saying he "loves his kids", well, it's hard to watch but there's nothing I can do about it . His letter was in a response to a letter from me asking WHY... for the love of god, why? So I told him I would mind my own business... and I am... as it happens I have a pre-op appointment for my Essure procedure set up as of today, though I didn't mention that part. God, it's just so hard to watch someone truly fucking up. If he and his lady bear could give their kids a good life that'd be one thing, but, frankly, at this point the little slugs are doomed to not having much for money or for role models. :(
(And: yes, I keep this LJ precisely so I can say things that judgemental about people. Thanks for asking. And: the comment link is right there if you just have to say something about money not being the only thing you need to raise a child and blah blah blah. Go for it. It's all you.)
Life proceeds apace. A fast pace. I worked 10 hrs yesterday with no breaks, and I guess 9-ish today, although today I sat outside at lunch and made my phone call. Tomorrow's another ultramarathon day thanks to Dale Carnegie... in which, by the way, the students are coming along so well now it's totally heartwarming, and I actually can't wait to see them. Wednesdays do come around with such brutal regularity though. Thud. Thud. Thud.
Lastly, I'm reading The Golden Transcendence, third in a trilogy by John Wright. So psyched to be reading something I know will have a glorious and heroic ending... ahhhh. :) I've had experiences with way too many first-of-a-series, middle-of-a-series and tragic books lately.
(And: yes, I keep this LJ precisely so I can say things that judgemental about people. Thanks for asking. And: the comment link is right there if you just have to say something about money not being the only thing you need to raise a child and blah blah blah. Go for it. It's all you.)
Life proceeds apace. A fast pace. I worked 10 hrs yesterday with no breaks, and I guess 9-ish today, although today I sat outside at lunch and made my phone call. Tomorrow's another ultramarathon day thanks to Dale Carnegie... in which, by the way, the students are coming along so well now it's totally heartwarming, and I actually can't wait to see them. Wednesdays do come around with such brutal regularity though. Thud. Thud. Thud.
Lastly, I'm reading The Golden Transcendence, third in a trilogy by John Wright. So psyched to be reading something I know will have a glorious and heroic ending... ahhhh. :) I've had experiences with way too many first-of-a-series, middle-of-a-series and tragic books lately.
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That is precisely it. Babies eat people's brains, I swear. I have no problem with people who are responsible parents, but those people are few and far between. I should know, I teach all their children, and they expect me and my colleagues to pick up the slack where they don't want to parent their darling angel who is of course PERFECT. *snarl*
And I like kids, I really do. It's one of the reasons I teach elementary school, I get a big kick out of kids that age. The thing that kills me is people think they are an incomplete human being if they don't spawn and so do it mindlessly, without regard for themselves or the children they bring into the world. People are absolutely shocked when I tell them I'm not interested in having kids and I feel totally fulfilled and happy, thankyouverymuch.
Mommy responds....
No rational thought does not leave. In fact, I spend tons of my time just trying to figure out why the hell I can't be the mom I want to be. I have the image in my mind, and somehow I can't fit it.
But, sometimes just because people are nice, doesn't mean they're rational. Its likely that if it wasn't kids, there'd be something else. And I have to agree with Miyyu. There are a lot of people who don't think before they have kids, generally there are short-comings in other areas, but it becomes the most obvious in their attitude with their children. I think the one I hate the most is the people who steal their kids thunder whenever the kids do something well, and then blame everyone else when they do something wrong.
Re: Mommy responds....
For background, editor bear has two young daughters. He has not had a steady job for the last year (though he's doing contract work now). He's now saying they "won't necessarily stop at three". And MY pet peeves are 1) people purposely bringing kids into an inferior financial situation when it isn't necessary and 2) people having more than two kids. More than three is just... wilfully harmful.
I want my bear-hunting rifle. :/
Re: Mommy responds....
I worry though. If people who don't care have tons and tons of kids, and people who do care have none...what balance shifts will occur in our society as a result?:)
Re: Mommy responds....
I do think the burden of children should be spread more fairly across society though. I'm not one of those childfree whiners who don't want to pay for other kids' education and so on, and I've seen the inequalities between rich kids and poor kids. I don't think society's ready to take all the kids away from all the moms so they can be raised in a more equal way, but you know, if I were dictator there would be days that would tempt me. In the meantime, I pay my taxes. :)