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[8.8%] What is happen
Feb. 7th, 2021 11:23 pmWork is a weirdly political nightmare -- not my current work with my new team, where I've at least finally met all my new direct reports (woot!) but stuff with my old director Middle. I don't want to give detail here but it's very, very hard not to suspect transfer-blocking shenanigans that are hurting the folks I left behind. My site director is involved and has met with Middle, and HR is involved, already. Having no remaining official connection... moi? I'm just this random manager in another group who happens to be advocating for the happy transfer and re-homing of some engineers, as is my privilege and obligation as a local old-timer.
My stupid back skin which was calming down, is still on a monthly breakout pattern and has now developed some patches of severely dry skin, which is new and exciting. By "exciting" I mean that I really want to avoid a nasty itch/scratch cycle, so I've backed off some of the topicals in hopes of this easing.
Workouts have started with my new Aussie coach, and so far they're mostly familiar exercises but at greater volume than I'd been doing. I'm sure I will make strength gains. Less sure that I'll get my press from this but it's only an 8-week program and seems worth trying. I did the first one on Saturday. As expected, we also spent a few hours this afternoon moving big stuff around the house; mostly swapping the bug's giant music-making desk with the elliptical machine but also moving a bookshelf. We'd moved a couch already last week. The office, which is now more like my office plus "the gym", feels a lot more spacious with the couch tucked into the window nook.
Romantic relationships are, oddly, the thing going best right now. Setting aside a weekly time for dedicated Real Talk with the bug is proving extremely useful, in a way that setting aside daily time never was when we tried that. We had our 22-year anniversary and celebrated with fancy takeout burgers from Craigie on Main and a really bad, problematically-sexy movie. Amazing line from a review of that movie: "a riff on Beauty and the Beast, albeit one where Beast attempts to demonstrate his worth by tying Belle to a bed and forcing her to watch the teapot character suck him off". Having seen the movie I can confirm: this scene happens and it is problematically hot. So yeah, 22 years and we're just that classy and it's good.
Then there's Helios at more like... a month. Total baby in comparison. So new that the network around us is still surprised that we exist. But we are doing exactly what I always thought two people with insecure attachment style should do when they get together: they should say yes, I get it, I am steady, you are safe and then they should make an easy pact to reassure each other, with zero resentment and whenever needed, because they understand how easy it is to believe that things will disappear. I saw this possibility with Lion but he didn't want to engage, and I'm glad this one is different because it is enormously satisfying.
Norwood, Mr. Secure Attachment Style himself, is calling me "NRE sub" and teasing me about certain nicknames, and planning for Valentine's Day dinner because the schedule is working out that way this year.
My stupid back skin which was calming down, is still on a monthly breakout pattern and has now developed some patches of severely dry skin, which is new and exciting. By "exciting" I mean that I really want to avoid a nasty itch/scratch cycle, so I've backed off some of the topicals in hopes of this easing.
Workouts have started with my new Aussie coach, and so far they're mostly familiar exercises but at greater volume than I'd been doing. I'm sure I will make strength gains. Less sure that I'll get my press from this but it's only an 8-week program and seems worth trying. I did the first one on Saturday. As expected, we also spent a few hours this afternoon moving big stuff around the house; mostly swapping the bug's giant music-making desk with the elliptical machine but also moving a bookshelf. We'd moved a couch already last week. The office, which is now more like my office plus "the gym", feels a lot more spacious with the couch tucked into the window nook.
Romantic relationships are, oddly, the thing going best right now. Setting aside a weekly time for dedicated Real Talk with the bug is proving extremely useful, in a way that setting aside daily time never was when we tried that. We had our 22-year anniversary and celebrated with fancy takeout burgers from Craigie on Main and a really bad, problematically-sexy movie. Amazing line from a review of that movie: "a riff on Beauty and the Beast, albeit one where Beast attempts to demonstrate his worth by tying Belle to a bed and forcing her to watch the teapot character suck him off". Having seen the movie I can confirm: this scene happens and it is problematically hot. So yeah, 22 years and we're just that classy and it's good.
Then there's Helios at more like... a month. Total baby in comparison. So new that the network around us is still surprised that we exist. But we are doing exactly what I always thought two people with insecure attachment style should do when they get together: they should say yes, I get it, I am steady, you are safe and then they should make an easy pact to reassure each other, with zero resentment and whenever needed, because they understand how easy it is to believe that things will disappear. I saw this possibility with Lion but he didn't want to engage, and I'm glad this one is different because it is enormously satisfying.
Norwood, Mr. Secure Attachment Style himself, is calling me "NRE sub" and teasing me about certain nicknames, and planning for Valentine's Day dinner because the schedule is working out that way this year.
