I'm back. I, uh, brought a thing.
Mar. 2nd, 2026 06:12 pmAnyway, I wrote a Pluribus fic for an exchange that's proving quite popular amongst the sort of people who enjoy being punched in the face. Previous summaries I considered were Literally no one consented to this and Helen haunts the narrative, and also Carol.
Dilaudid (Pluribus; Carol/Zosia, Carol/Helen; 2k)
7. Zosia is a honey trap. Don’t fall for it.
[A Few Moments Later]
13. Zosia is a honey trap. Don’t fall for it AGAIN.
Or,
Carol Sturka and the difference between real and real enough.
More film ethics ramblings
Mar. 2nd, 2026 06:00 pmIt's hardly surprising that I sometimes struggle with questions of film ethics – meaning, in this case, production ethics rather than simply what appears on screen in the end product. Professional specialists in it write academic papers, even entire books in which they struggle with them. But it's a subject I find fascinating and difficult at the same time. For a start, what we now think is excellent ethics may well not be seen that way in 50 years' time. But even allowing for that, consider:
1. I regret to say I am convinced that actual, straight-up-and-down abuses are more numerous than we'd like to think – look how many cases the Weinstein affair revealed – and, as I know from my own research about Sandra Peabody's mistreatment making The Last House on the Left, sometimes even severe abuse can be hidden in plain sight for many years and still not widely taken seriously. But look how long it took for the abuses on (to name but three) Last Tango in Paris, The Birds, and even The Wizard of Oz to move from industry whispers to established fact. Decades in every case.
2. Even once we remove malice from the equation, there's the sliding scale that runs from encouragement to pressure to soft coercion to hard coercion. To take a film I've covered recently, I've never seen The Evil Dead's Betsy Baker say or even imply she was coerced into agreeing to the chainsaw scene, the scene that I find impossible to accept as reasonable risk even for 20-year-olds in the woods almost 50 years ago. Baker has said she agreed to do it "for the scene", which can be a red-flag phrase, but in this case the agreement seems real. But should she have been allowed to say yes to something as dangerous as that?
3. Then there's Stagecoach. It's a Western made in 1939 about 1880, which is like making a film today about 1967 in that plenty of people were still alive who remembered the year when it was set. It contains two almost universal problems with old Westerns: poor representation of Native Americans and poor treatment of performing horses. In a film made the same year, Jesse James, a horse may (sources differ) have been made to leap over a steep drop to its death. To what extent should that complicate our relationship with such films today?
4. A director can have a deservedly good reputation for professionalism and their films can still prompt concern for cast and crew's safety. John Carpenter rejected the abusiveness of some other low-budget 1970s horror directors when he and Debra Hill made Halloween. That's worth a great deal. But a few years later he started his studio career with The Thing. Today that film is widely admired for its practical effects – but some of those would be vetoed on sight by a safety co-ordinator today, while Rob Bottin literally worked himself into hospital.
5. In the 1969 British film Kes, there is a scene where schoolboys are caned on the hand. There is good evidence that the production had told the boys that director Ken Loach would call cut just before the cane actually hit them. He didn't. Loach seemed less than sympathetic when interviewed about this years later, as well as falsely telling the young lead his screen kestrel would be killed for real. This is child cruelty. Of course there are far more serious examples out there, but "it's Ken Loach" should not be a magic shield. We had enough of that with Hitchcock.
Of course, being the human I am, I am not always perfectly aligned in my personal behaviour over these films with where I "should" be if I were fully playing by the rules of ethics. I refuse to watch Last Tango in Paris, but I own a copy of The Wizard of Oz. I know in my head that "non-physical cruelty" on set is so easy that in the power-imbalance-heavy world of cinema it must happen much more often than we'd like – but suspension of disbelief is of course a key part of acting. And on and on and on. Here endeth the rambling, at least for now!
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On the last Socrates joke, like a dozen people told me I should've called his nutritional supplements Himlock, and it just kills me that I didn't.
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carbolic
Mar. 2nd, 2026 07:23 amAnd as a short form for carbolic soap, a mildly antiseptic soap containing it, which was the first commercially available disinfectant soap. The name was coined in 1834 in German as Carbolsäure (modern German Karbolsäure), carbolic acid by the chemist, Friedlieb Ferdinand Runge, who first derived it, from coal tar -- thus the carbon connection.
---L.
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Mar. 2nd, 2026 08:16 amApril in Paris by Ursula K. Le Guin
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Young People Read Old Science Fiction Stories Edited By Cele Goldsmith: April in Paris by Ursula K. Le Guin
The Impossible Predicament of the Uninsured
Mar. 2nd, 2026 08:00 amThe day after Thanksgiving, I got a voicemail. A woman identified herself as a doctor at the University of Louisville hospital: “I believe I may have one of your family members here.”
The message was hard to understand. Most of my family lives in Kentucky, so I didn’t know whom the doctor was referring to. I called the hospital, but kept getting put on hold. Then I tried my aunt—if someone was in trouble, she’d be the one to know. But she didn’t answer.
A few hours later, her son got in touch with me. My aunt was the one in the hospital. She’d had an aneurysm on the right side of her brain, and it had burst. The drainage tube the doctors used to stop the bleeding kept slipping loose; after three tries, they finally got it to stick. Only then could they do surgery. My cousin FaceTimed me afterward, from the ICU. “Are you ready?” he asked. He angled the camera down to my aunt’s face, and I started sobbing like a sudden rainstorm.
A few days later, I got on a plane from Washington, D.C., to Kentucky and went straight to join my family at the hospital. We had always called my aunt “The Glamourina.” She wore feathered hats with sparkly shirts and experimented with different hairstyles: a butterscotch-blond cropped cut, an afro, a bob streaked with highlights. She paid for my first real manicure, when I was in high school. We wore matching striped shirts to the salon, and used an eyeliner pencil to draw fake moles above our lips, like Marilyn Monroe.
She is 58 now, and raised two kids as a single mother. She always treated me like one of her children, and I grew up to look more like her than like my own mom. When I’d talked with her the week before she ended up in the hospital, she’d asked me to play our favorite song, “I’m So Proud of You,” by Julie Anne Vargas. Now the top half of her head was shaved and staples ran in a ladder across it. IVs were taped to each arm, and a machine next to her bed was helping her breathe. She couldn’t speak. When she opened her eyes, they rolled.
Her older son was especially alarmed by how quickly she’d declined. He wanted the doctors to come into her room so they could explain what had happened. But one of our older relatives stopped him, saying that we couldn’t afford to make demands, let alone trouble, because “she don’t have a lick of health insurance.”
We knew that the hospital couldn’t deny her care, but we understood the tightrope you walk when you don’t have money. All she could afford to be was grateful.
We don’t know what caused my aunt’s aneurysm, but she’d had persistent headaches for months, and she’d been worried. Once, when she was driving, the left side of her body turned numb and her toes curled up. She pulled over but didn’t go to the hospital; she couldn’t afford it.
My aunt worked as a hair stylist at a salon for years. Most recently, she was the overnight caregiver for an elderly woman, but she had opted out of her employer-sponsored health insurance because she couldn’t afford the premium. She’d occasionally had coverage in the past, but it never guaranteed that she’d actually be able to afford health care. She called me once, defeated, because she was trying to fill a prescription at Walgreens and the pharmacy had flagged an issue with her insurance. She would need to pay out of pocket, and she didn’t have the $134.89. She was often frustrated by spending long spells on hold with insurance agents, and was overwhelmed by the complexity of the plans.
[Annie Lowrey: Annoying people to death]
My aunt’s experience with the health-care system is familiar to many Americans. In a 2023 survey by the Kaiser Family Foundation, nearly a quarter of adults said signing up for a plan was simply too confusing. Even those who have coverage may decide to delay or skip treatment because they can’t afford the out-of-pocket costs, resulting in emergency-room visits and hospitalizations that could have been prevented.
Some years, my aunt made so little money that she might have qualified for Medicaid, but not recently—the income cutoff if you’re single in Kentucky is $1,835 a month. Some years, she bought coverage through the Affordable Care Act’s exchanges, but eventually she decided it was too expensive.
Many more people are now making that same decision. In 2025, the Republican-controlled Congress voted to let Biden-era subsidies in the ACA, which had helped some 22 million people afford their coverage, expire. Within just two weeks of the cutoff, at the end of December, enrollment had dropped by 1 million people. According to one group’s estimate, families are paying $200, $300, or $1,000 more a month; many have seen their premiums double.
[Read: The coming Obamacare cliff]
In January, President Trump released his proposal for a “Great Healthcare Plan,” which suggests that savings from the former subsidies could be sent directly to “eligible” Americans. But who would be eligible? The proposal makes no mention of the many people who don’t have coverage. Then, in February, the Trump administration released a list of 43 prescription drugs that Americans can buy for reduced prices. But some of these were already available at those prices or in generic forms, and they make up a tiny fraction of the drugs Americans need; the prescription my aunt couldn’t afford, for instance, is not listed.
Nothing about Trump’s pronouncements changes the fact that millions more Americans will soon be stuck where my aunt was: in the middle—sometimes insured, sometimes uninsured, but always too poor to get the care they need.
As I stared at my aunt in the ICU, I noticed that her eyebrows were freshly waxed, and her nails had bleach-white French tips. Only the week before, she’d texted me about getting her nails done. It was an indulgence she rarely allowed herself: “Woo this pedi feels good. I haven’t had one since last year.” When I rubbed Vaseline on her chapped feet, I discovered her ruby-red toenails.
She could not have known that the decision to finally splurge a little on herself would be a conversation starter with the nurses, who complimented her on her nails and eyebrows. Her grooming signaled to them that she was someone who took care of herself, someone who deserved their attention and respect.
I drove to her house later that week to meet her younger son. We’d planned to check on her bills—to see if we could find her bank PIN or account information to make sure that her finances stayed on track. I found notebooks coated with her handwriting, a list of numbers down each page that looked like an unsolved equation. These, I realized, were her monthly expenses, along with details such as the confirmation codes for bills she’d paid. Stuffed inside one notebook was a pawn-shop notice, announcing its full ownership over an item she’d traded in.
For years, not having enough money nibbled at my aunt’s health. She texted me about having severe pain in her back and breasts. She wrote that she had a “knot” in one breast—“I’m thinking just polyps.” She lost a lot of weight and said she was feeling depressed. I suggested reaching out to a psychiatrist to ask for antidepressants. She wrote back: “That cost. That’s why I need insurance.” She was tired of pretending to be okay. After paying for her mortgage, water bill, Wi‑Fi, car insurance, and other necessities each month, she’d usually be out of money. She was always transparent with me about her struggles, and sent photos of bills with disconnect notices: a letter from the energy company; an available checking balance of –$59.70; a past-due payment, with the amount owed in bold. Shutoffs have resumed. Make a $172.75 payment today to get your account back on track. She had small wins, such as finally paying off her car. But she still went back and forth to the payday-loan store.
As I sat next to her in the hospital, I couldn’t help but feel guilty. For years, I had been sending her money when she asked, but sometimes I didn’t. I would listen to her struggles and then go on with my life. I was grateful to be financially stable, but frustrated by being the financial rescuer for family members. I wanted to create boundaries, and to escape from the transactional, lopsided part of these relationships.
[From the October 2023 issue: Jenisha from Kentucky]
But I had not thought enough about how much she gave me—in every way she could. She posted about my accomplishments on Facebook no matter how small I considered them. She filled voids for me: self-esteem booster, cheerleader, second mother. In 2014, she used all the money she had to fly to New York to see me graduate from Columbia. She was the only member of my family there. When my name was called and I walked across the stage, she cried so much that someone had to hand her a tissue.
A few months ago, my son turned 4, and my aunt was determined to send him a gift. A manila envelope arrived at my apartment: She had mailed him five individually wrapped Hot Wheels cars and a Spider-Man birthday card. I recorded a video as my son stuffed his hand inside the envelope, pulling out each toy, saying, “Oh, wow. This is awesome.” That night, I sent the video to my aunt. She wrote back at 2 a.m.: “Up looking at videos over n over. He was so excited.” She was always trying to give to others, even though she never had enough for herself.
As individuals, and as a country, we tend to pay attention only when it’s too late. Americans who want to cut health-care spending don’t seem to understand that access to preventive care saves not just lives, but also money. Perhaps my aunt’s hospital stay could have been avoided if she’d been able to call a doctor and make an appointment, an option that so many of us take for granted. What is a life like my aunt’s worth in America? Unfortunately, that determination has been made.
[Jonathan Chait: Obamacare changed the politics of health care]
My aunt hasn’t sat up or spoken since the aneurysm, and no one knows if she will again. In January, she was transferred from the hospital to a nursing home. She’s supposed to go home soon, to be cared for by the family, who can’t possibly give her the round-the-clock care she needs. She’s not capable of worrying about health insurance at this point, but if she were, she wouldn’t have to: Now that she’s completely disabled, she qualifies for Medicaid.
This article appears in the April 2026 print edition with the headline “The Cost of Not Having Health Insurance.”
Onward to London?!
Mar. 2nd, 2026 11:30 amHey guess which fuckwit totally spaced on agreeing to a meeting in London this afternoon!
Entirely self-imposed stress. Some combination of agreeing to a thing in March a few weeks ago when that felt very far away, and having last week off.
Starting work this morning after my week off, I settle down to go through my million emails and spot that one of them says"hey Erik I'll be there at 13.54"; "there" is London Bridge and the "today" is unspoken!
Luckily I was, barely, able to get a train there in time (glad it wasn't a morning meeting!), with D kindly getting up early to give me a lift to the station that's most useful: there's trains every 20 minutes to London but now I'm effectively on the 10.15 train when it would have been the 10.55 without his help. Makes a big difference when I would've been getting into Euston about the time I want to be at London Bridge...
I spent the first hour on the train triaging emails (and Teams messages). I'm a little frazzled now so I might give myself the gift of just staring out the window a bit now that we're leaving Rugby (about halfway through my train journey).
Girl Genius for Monday, March 02, 2026
Mar. 2nd, 2026 05:00 am(no subject)
Mar. 2nd, 2026 02:01 pmOver the last two months, I've been opening all the dreamwidth posts I intend to read (at length) or reply to, and then not having the oomph to do so. At the beginning of the weekend, I have over 450 tabs open in this window. I ... am not going to read all of those. I'm slowly closing them. I'm reading bits of them, but I'm not commenting.
so, one generic post: To all those who have been through surgery / medical bullshit, I hope you are recovering well. To those who have lost loved ones, I'm sorry for your loss, my condolences. To those posting about weather: I'm very much appreciating it. Also those posting small details of lives, reading, gaming, music, etc. To those sharing your creative endeavours, congrats! (and I'm sorry: if it is writing I have no spoons to go read).
If there is something you want me to know about, comment here or DM me please
(This post comes with the soundtrack of Youngest asking "If You were the tax act, what word would you use for tips?" and then complaining that 'gratuities' isn't in section ten, but there is something about grape vines).
incubous
Mar. 2nd, 2026 12:01 amI would not, could not, eat it flat
I would not eat it in a hat.
I will not eat that croissant, Sam
Even if it's cheese and ham.
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