How hard will it be? Wrong, it will be twice as hard as that.

[flexagon]

I had a depressing conversation with HLM last night about how much money he wants to keep putting towards condo improvement after we finish paying off the windows this month. Basically, the answer is zero... the time of having common financial goals is over. And much as I talked a big talk last night, I don't really feel like financing a kitchen remodel on my own, so that idea is out until future notice too (we are still going to get a dishwasher hooked up, but financial involvement on HLM's part stops there). Le sigh. I know, I know, I was going to revisit my budget anyway, and yes, the place is a lot nicer now than it was when we moved in. But sometimes it's just depressing to be reminded that you and your partner have such different goals. They lined up for a while there... and it was so nice. Sucks to go back to going it alone. I'm already a lot less depressed than I was last night, but that doesn't exactly mean cheerful.

Oh, and I also found out yesterday that Dahn yoga is basically a cult. :(

Thank you, droplets of sleet that are hitting my window, for reflecting my mood so well.

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[flexagon]

Don't feel bad, nobody knows how HLM operates. :) I think the idea is he'll be saving money but it'll be earmarked for him living off it. Which is fair... and I do feel guilty for asking him to contribute tons of money when every $1500 is basically a month he doesn't have for living the life he wants. Back when we started saving I remember telling him he didn't have to match my budget amount, I just wanted us to put in whatever a nicer home was worth for us. But, on a bone-deep level he just doesn't get budgeting and earmarking--you know this is true when someone tells you "it seems like it makes things too easy." So, okay, I can't blame him for getting tired of the game when it really is keeping him from doing what he wants.

However, I'm not counting on any lump sum suddenly freeing up for him in the future. Sure it could happen in a few years, but it can't be counted on, so... it can't be counted on.

I really can't blame him. It's not like I'm helping him finance his little operation either. If fixing what we've fixed was a mutual desire but doing more isn't, well, it sucks but it's fair.