Woot! I don't have syphilis!

[flexagon]

I got my premarital medical certificate in the mail last night. Apparently I don't have syphilis and can legally get married in Massachusetts. HLM in the meantime has lost his and has to go back to his doctor for another, and then we can get our marriage license.

My friend just wrote me a huge brain-dump about how he's in a satisfactory relationship but still isn't sure it's what he wants... after 2 years. Then he complained that his girlfriend is sometimes insecure. I don't know what-all I'll tell him, but certainly I'll say that if he were to become sure she's the one, and say so, and act on that, she'd get a lot better. Duh. It's weird hearing about all this from him... not so long ago he'd never even had a gf, and I was the one putting his heart through the wringer. Now he finds himself on the other side of that. There is justice in the universe, just sometimes.

Comments

Insecurity...

[bluechromis.livejournal.com]

often comes from lack of information, right? If she asks him a direct question he should give her a direct answer, and there you have it, insecurity solved.

Re: Insecurity...

[flexagon]

True. But he doesn't know, because he can't decide. So her insecurity is entirely rational. Poor thing.

Sounds like an answer in and of itself...

[bluechromis.livejournal.com]

Maybe she should just jet.

Sigh. It's true

[flexagon]

especially since she really wants to get going on Project Kid. I have to admire her patience... alas, I'm his friend not hers, so all I can do is tell him it's unfair if he doesn't figure his shit out soon.