Fuck!

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My mother apparently sent E and V a message with birthday wishes for my biological brat, in April... fuck. No wonder they haven't replied about the wedding--they are NOT comfortable with her interest in the baby and she supposedly knows that! I wouldn't come either if I were them.

God, how I wish I still had their phone number... but I don't. I'm reduced to groveling emails. Still trying to decide what to say to my mother. I know she feels hurt that they're jumpy about her, but it's just so uncool that she wrote them when she knows they are.

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Hmm. Too bad...

[bluechromis.livejournal.com]

It'd be so handy if they didn't mind your mother's interest. It would allow her to satisfy her grandmotherly urges without bugging you and the brat would get more presents. But I understand their possessiveness. Bummer :(

Actually, it's all okay

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I think I was allowed the flip-out since she has indeed freaked them out before, but apparently that wasn't it this time, and bday wishes are okay. They were just being lazy writing back. They assure me that while they're not coming, everything is fine, and indeed, they want to send us a present. :)

If I had a baby by a sperm donor, I'd feel pretty odd if the sperm donor's father or mother kept contacting me, too. I think everyone's really being fairly good about the whole deal, overall.... slowly converging on something that works. I think E is actually beginning to appreciate my mom's caring, since he's got a whole parental branch that refuses to have anything to do with the baby on the grounds that there's no genetic link between the baby and E. Dumb and shortsighted, ohhhh yeah.