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flexagonHuh. This is a flawed but interesting article (go read it; I'll wait).
Of course it's not true that "if you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs", but it is true that if you actually want that something, you need to have some awareness of its costs and be able to put up with both the quality and the quantity of the costs. It strikes me also that, if you don't like the costs, you might need faith that the process works. Otherwise you might, for instance, have all those tough conversations, the awkward silences, the hurt feelings etc without feeling like an awesome relationship is actually in the offing. Or I suppose one might suffer the sore muscles, awkwardly dropped weights, failed reps etc at the gym without feeling like it's going to change anything. Hmmm... guess I've always been on the "persevere just in case" side of things. Faith and positive visions and stuff take so much work, and yeah, if something's going to really succeed it's only going to be in the long-term investment sort of way anyway. I wonder if positive visions help, though.
Knowing what kind of pain you can tolerate is definitely part of choosing a circus discipline. :P
On a happier but longer reading note: What if Harry Potter, the Chosen One, had turned out to be a Squib? A surprisingly good read, equal parts fanfic and uplifting musings on human value.
Of course it's not true that "if you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs", but it is true that if you actually want that something, you need to have some awareness of its costs and be able to put up with both the quality and the quantity of the costs. It strikes me also that, if you don't like the costs, you might need faith that the process works. Otherwise you might, for instance, have all those tough conversations, the awkward silences, the hurt feelings etc without feeling like an awesome relationship is actually in the offing. Or I suppose one might suffer the sore muscles, awkwardly dropped weights, failed reps etc at the gym without feeling like it's going to change anything. Hmmm... guess I've always been on the "persevere just in case" side of things. Faith and positive visions and stuff take so much work, and yeah, if something's going to really succeed it's only going to be in the long-term investment sort of way anyway. I wonder if positive visions help, though.
Knowing what kind of pain you can tolerate is definitely part of choosing a circus discipline. :P
On a happier but longer reading note: What if Harry Potter, the Chosen One, had turned out to be a Squib? A surprisingly good read, equal parts fanfic and uplifting musings on human value.
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Date: 2016-01-03 07:10 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-01-03 09:47 pm (UTC)You're quite welcome! I am probably of more benefit that way when my head's more of a mess... ah well.
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Date: 2016-01-03 09:40 pm (UTC)the way it sits in my head is the mantra that got me through the institute:
many things worth doing are hard,
but not everything that's hard is worth doing.
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Date: 2016-01-04 12:13 am (UTC)When unexpected difficulties arise, it can be awfully hard to tell whether the total cost just grew too great or whether the thing is still worth doing... oh, for perfect foresight!
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Date: 2016-01-03 10:53 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-01-03 11:56 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-01-04 03:30 am (UTC):-}
(More seriously, I wasn't summarizing as ignoring the end state, just not focussing on it exclusively. Shinies don't need me to remember to pay attention to them; I just do.)
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Date: 2016-01-04 02:07 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2016-01-12 11:10 pm (UTC)* "Because it's the right thing to do and I want to be a person who does the right thing"
* "Because if I don't do it, the good thing will DEFINITELY not happen; this creates at least a chance."
Do either of those work for your brain? These answers don't cheer me up but they do cause me to act.
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Date: 2016-01-12 11:32 pm (UTC)* blissfully ignoring it. just charge on in, whatever! I think this worked for several of my larger projects actually. Redistricting started this way. Maybe getting the first measures of success solidified the process.
* enjoying the journey. Aerial silks and acro has always been an interesting challenge at every step.
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Date: 2016-01-14 11:25 pm (UTC)Enjoying the journey is an interesting one. I just realized that I can enjoy the journey with handstands or other things that are obviously skill-based, but have never been able to think in those terms with relationships, really. Maybe I haven't even tried.