Just gettin' my shit together

[flexagon]

Well, so far I've spent a lot of this weekend just getting my shit together, doing random chores and cleaning. My visit to R's on Thursday really reminded me that there is another way to live in a space, a way that keeps the surfaces clean and the place ready for guests. And it's true that I can't get this place as nice as hers (just not enough storage), and it's also true that I tend to keep a place a lot nicer if it's just mine (I've kind of used the fact of living with HLM as a reason an excuse for why I can't keep the place clean). However... let's look at the facts. We both get the place messy, and while it's equal in some places it's much more my fault in others, and I'm the one who gets driven nuts by the results. I would be driven much less nuts if the mess level went down by 50%. Pop quiz... who should change her habits?

It's me, yeah me, (singin' I hate messy rooms, gimme little time and I'll clean it, baby...)

Sigh. I realize how many truly essential habits I don't have in place. So many times I'll leave small bits of trash on the counter or table, or I won't put something away when I'm done with it, or whatever. I hereby promise to change that!

bluechromis came over for a while today--she caught me running frantically towards home as I was trying to get there before her after waiting forever for the bus--pretty funny! We ate roasted chestnuts and had a great talk, including (as always) sex tips. Yay for passing things on, and yay for things to try out! She invited me to dinner, and it was tempting, but I decided to stay here and eat leftovers, fold laundry, do dishes and generally Be Good. Well, the place is pretty clean. So now I have around four hours to stretch and then be productive/creative in some way... hmm, the blank evening stretcheth before me like the proverbial blank sheet of paper. What to write, what to do?

I would work on condo shopping if it weren't for the sad likelihood that the condo ain't happening until HLM gets a job. Very sad, that... I just never knew they counted current income so heavily in the decision process of handing out mortgages. But our current down payment plus my income just isn't enough unless we can get a "no-doc" loan for about $100K to supplement the loans I do qualify for, or unless some of the kind people willing to lend me $200K at 4% are willing to lend me $300K at a higher interest rate. Sigh... well, we haven't given up yet, and it will be all right even if we have to wait. There are good aspects to this, they just aren't financially good.

And Ian Anderson on the stereo sings Stay with me and learn the secret language of birds. Um, if you'll keep singing to me in that voice, I do believe I will!

Comments

Lot's o' stuff there

[andycomment.livejournal.com]

That was a packed post!
HLM as an excuse - I did the same thing when I lived with people. It made sense a little I think. No matter how well you clean up your shit, if his shit is still messy, the place is a mess. So why bother cleaning yours? Of course, you get yourself deadlocked pretty quickly. I'm proud of you for releasing your lock on the mutex. ;-) (Actually, that would be a great example for teaching young comp sci kids about potential deadlock situations in threads)

bluechromis eluded to the conversation ever so slightly. Oh how I wanted to hear the details!

Sorry about the loan situation. I have to call someone this week about our loan potential. If he turns out to be good, I'll pass on his info to you. He seemed to believe that anything was possible, of course, the impossible comes at a premium.

Re: Lot's o' stuff there

[flexagon]

Yeah, I always seem to have more than one thing to say. Sometimes I'd like to focus, but show me a day where you're only thinking about or doing one thing!

We'll see how the unlocked mutex goes. I do want HLM to help a little bit, but I really think if I truly change my habits, his would start to change as well. It's just a matter of changing what you think is normal.

And the loans, well, we may find out more today. It may not be smart pushing for more than we can easily get... it definitely occurs to me that if anything goes wrong with getting out of our lease, or with HLM finding a job, or both, and we have a mortgage, I'm going to get seriously screwed. So it's not clear to me what's worse, the risk of screwage or the amount we're paying in rent right now. :b

[jg26.livejournal.com]

I really wish I could've been a fly on the wall for your conversation w/ blue.... Suffice it to say, I'm looking into hammock chairs!!!

Wait a second... My parents have hammock chairs in Vermont...

...........

**disturbed**

Simmer down, little teapot.

[bluechromis.livejournal.com]

Well, those chairs are outside, and you know how I hate the cold. So you don't have to worry about that until next summer.

[flexagon]

*LOL*

I'd forgotten that part of the conversation. My mind is still on the tricks I was just passing on from RC, not having tried them myself yet. Well, I'll just let her tell you about those. That's more appropriate. ;)

[bluechromis.livejournal.com]

It is freaking hard to keep a place clean while living with others...if for no other reason than different standards of cleanliness. Sigh. Other people. Always getting in the way.

Good loan vibes headed your way.

As we know, they worked...

[flexagon]

sweet! So could you now start sending "landlady be nice and let us out of our lease" vibes? ;)

Re: As we know, they worked...

[bluechromis.livejournal.com]

Well, I need some of those vibes myself :(

I'm getting pretty worried about getting someone to take my apt. Let me know if you have any success posting anywhere.