OK, update: the book basically recommends a combination of CBT and a conscious, ongoing effort of reaching out and initiating small interactions (without expecting miracles). Again, it is not a self-help book and there are others that are.
Not specifically for loneliness, but it also mentions that active coping strategies (trying to DO SOMETHING about problems) are way better for the vascular system than passive coping strategies. Both raise blood pressure but in different ways. That was interesting. So not as a loneliness strategy but for health, I guess keep trying to do something about problems.
I had not initially thought of you when counting the obviously-very-lonely people in my life. You know one of the others, and the two of you don't get along at all. Multiple reasons for that, of course (there are always multiple reasons) but it sure does make sense in the context of loneliness. Two people who each pick up on a bunch of subtle signals and then interpret them as more hostile than intended are not very likely to become besties.
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Date: 2020-03-01 02:54 pm (UTC)Not specifically for loneliness, but it also mentions that active coping strategies (trying to DO SOMETHING about problems) are way better for the vascular system than passive coping strategies. Both raise blood pressure but in different ways. That was interesting. So not as a loneliness strategy but for health, I guess keep trying to do something about problems.
I had not initially thought of you when counting the obviously-very-lonely people in my life. You know one of the others, and the two of you don't get along at all. Multiple reasons for that, of course (there are always multiple reasons) but it sure does make sense in the context of loneliness. Two people who each pick up on a bunch of subtle signals and then interpret them as more hostile than intended are not very likely to become besties.