Food, work, eye exam, ADHD

[flexagon]

Pandemic life is... learning about weird food anxieties. After a lot of me asking if we could please order less in the way of groceries, or at least not have it all delivered so soon, please, we finally figured out that it stresses me out to have too much perishable food around and it stresses the bug out to have too little. We're working on compromises and on making smaller more frequent orders.

I worked super hard this week, midnight or later every night, almost entirely on other people's promotion writeups (while angrily slapping distractions out of the way, thus staying more caught up on email than you'd expect). It's fine; this is what I pre-emptively took vacation to prepare for, and I rather appreciate the complete clarity of prioritization. I still needed a long break on Friday night, and the bug and I watched The Shape of Water, so that's the interesting media of the week. I closed my eyes unhappily at the violence (I particularly dislike torture scenes) but liked the pro-tolerance themes. The weirdos do stick it to the man, at least enough to be satisfying, and there's some magical realism and a perky quirky heroine. And today I'm finally on to doing my own self-writeup, a much lower-stakes and fairly mechanical activity than working on promotion cases.

I went for an eye exam today and got the most adorable little optometrist. Unlike the dentist, at least for an eye exam I got to keep my mask on, and had bought KN95s in preparation. And I wanted to ask her out! So apparently, despite my focus on men in the last 2-3 years, I've still got some bi in me. That was nice, and partially made up for the feelings of covid-risk. *grin*

An amusing ADHD thing: independently and on their requests, I ended up running studies on both the bug and Norwood to see if they could tell ADHD drugs from placebos. Shan't tell you too much, but apparently (with these exact doses and humans) it's easier to tell Vyvanse from a placebo than it is to tell Ritalin from a placebo. I also learned this week that there are ADHD coaches, and executive function coaches, and this article about hiring one kind of fascinated me -- in particular, the idea of the client learning to feel the sensation of having her shit in order, and learning to slowly form a preference for that feeling. Like learning a preference for proper form in an exercise.

Comments

[triesticity]

Haha yeah right there with you on the food stuff. When C ordered groceries we ended up with, like, two bunches of rapidly browning bananas and 16 single-serving hummus containers in the fridge (which we somehow ate before their best-before date, but we were burned out on peppers and hummus as snacks for quite a while after that). He's been fine letting me take over the ordering, which makes sense given that I do nearly all the cooking/meal prep. Plus he's told me that when he lived alone he never did a particularly good job of shopping for himself in a way that made sense/he found himself throwing out food more than he liked. Smaller/more frequent orders also make more sense for us now that delivery slots are much easier to get than they were in March/April.

[apfelsingail]

Hm- given how fed up I'm getting with my very ADHD roommate around executive functioning... I can try pointing her that way, although I doubt she'll follow through on it. The link to that article doesn't seem to be working?

[flexagon]

Whups! I think I fixed the link, but here it is just for you:

https://www.self.com/story/hiring-adhd-coach-transformed-my-life

[randysmith]

Fascinating. That may well be an explanation for why I have my ADD as under control as I do. I hate not having my shit in order. Mind, I spend a lot of time without it being in order, but it's something I'm continually reaching for and sometimes achieve. Useful perspective.

[ceelove]

Again, thank you for the ADD pointer, I expect it will help me navigate the new waters of my life being deeply intertwined with my partner’s ADD. The book you mentioned - I think, “When Someone You Love Has ADD” - was quite useful for me in understanding my partner and how to help her. Given the number of stressors in our lives, that’s been pretty damn important to me and, literally, our success in building the homestead.

Hmm, occurs to me to wonder, are you following along with me now? I stopped posting here, but I’m keeping up homesteadingdykes.com with my adventures.

[flexagon]

Haha -- yes, the bug is still a bit scarred from when we had trouble getting delivery slots in March/April also. But it isn't like that anymore! And he definitely doesn't always do a full inventory of the food we already have, before ordering more (he has way too much yogurt right now, which does not stress me out because I don't eat dairy. It's entirely on him). If it were all on me, I'd do better in that regard but I would keep very little food around and it would make him nervous. So for now we're doing the ordering together.

[flexagon]

OH, I hadn't been but it looks like you're having all sorts of adventures! Open in a tab now for reading when I get a chance. :)

[justplainuniverse]

are either of these folks looking into getting an adhd coach? i really want want but the field is so vast. i did a bunch of free consults several years ago and felt like they were all just "use timers"! and other things any reasonably smart and studious person has already read about. that's not to say it wouldn't help to have the accountability... but i want someone brilliant :P

[flexagon]

Yes, the bug has an appt with a potential coach on Monday (the coach has a bit of a career focus, it seems) and he's very hopeful about it. I guess there are two coaches that his current pill-dispenser thinks quite highly of so he picked the more career-focused one of those. If you like, I can pass on the names of these two. But I don't feel I have a ton of knowledge about them yet.

[justplainuniverse]

i would love to get those names! i had a hard time finding any personal recs so was just searching blindly through directories.