Is this contagious? Must sexual penetration be degrading? Hell no.

[flexagon]

I apparently caught, from bluechromis, the urge to go comment on a community where I won't be welcomed. I commented on this. I just had to after reading the other comments! Gaaaaaah.

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I'm not trying to be mean, just over-analytical

[savage-rose.livejournal.com]

I loved your comment...I've never heard it expressed that way before. You expressed in the most non-confrontational way possible.

"proof that sexual people do not get anything abou asexual. i think sex is degrading, so when talking about sex, i say its degrading. someone i know thought using the word degrading, out of context and with the wrong meaning, would be funny, because i use it a lot! i use it alot when talking about sex, no generally! it just shows that sexual people think that asexual's opinions on sex are something to take the piss out of in any context, even those that have nothing to do with sex!"

I had trouble even deciphering what this means...apparently this is written in a language not unlike English. Whatever though on that point. I feel really bad for them, that they have felt that powerless and choiceless during sex. In a bad relationship/situation, sex can be degrading, but in a good one, it's liberating. He might have the penis in this relationship, but it is really not all about the penis, or even what the penis is doing. Not all :)

I don't think I belong there either...and I don't feel like my comments would be helpful for them. They're holding on to some hurt from the past, and trying to justify keeping it. They're more anti-sexual than asexual. I would think that asexual--which actually means something having the capability of reproducing alone (doesn't it?)--in this instance would mean a general apathy for sex. And they are clearly not apathetic about it. No, I don't think they want to hear from me. They seem too defensive, I think it would just piss them off. Well, maybe I'll say something. Well, maybe not :)

Re: I'm not trying to be mean, just over-analytical

[savage-rose.livejournal.com]

I posted. I tried to keep it as non-belligerent as possible.

Re: I'm not trying to be mean, just over-analytical

[flexagon]

Ha ha... yeah, it's hard to resist, isn't it? I thought you were very nonbelligerent (good job!) but I don't think you got too far either. She replies, i can never see sex as being anything less than someone being degraded, defilled etc. it is why i am not interested in sex. Oooookay... we probably can't stop her from seeing it that way then.

That community has a lot of people who do have more apathy toward sex than anything, but then there are a couple of very vocal people who are more angry about the issue (and have questionable grammar). I really really don't get the "someone always has to be submitting" thing though... I just really... don't. Sigh. Oh well.

Btw, as a word nerd I couldn't help looking up asexual. Both usages are correct. :)

Main Entry: asex·u·al
Pronunciation: (")A-'sek-sh(&-)w&l, -'sek-sh&l
Function: adjective
1 : lacking sex or functional sex organs
2 a : involving or reproducing by reproductive processes (as cell division, spore formation, fission, or budding) that do not involve the union of individuals or germ cells b : produced by asexual reproduction
3 : devoid of sexuality

Re: I'm not trying to be mean, just over-analytical

[savage-rose.livejournal.com]

But having anti-sexuality still implies sexuality to me. She's really, really thought about it. A lot.

Thanks. I tried :)