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flexagonDear Internet,
Give me your theories on why men don't generally seek out women who are high earners. I am, of course, talking about the heterosexual dating scene in the USA, there being lots of other dating scenes but none that affect me and my friends quite so directly.
The argument for a spouse (mate, partner) who brings home the bacon is pretty obvious, right? If both of you bring home the bacon, then the two of you have double bacon. Each of you can live in a strange but lovely world where all joint purchases are half-price, because you buy them together. If either one of you brings home enough bacon then the other can work less or even stay at home -- but the case I'm mostly thinking about is someone who already works, and looking for someone else to be with. Women instinctively seem to understand my bacon-math... men, well, the guys I'm thinking of could be trying to date people who earn what they earn, but they're not.
Theory #1 (from a friend) is that men want to be taken care of -- so they want someone who has time to make them a high priority, and who isn't super stressed about her own work. This is reasonable enough, but it doesn't seem like it needs to be gender-specific. After all, I like being petted and made a priority too.
What gives, boys? I'm not even asking why men don't want to be supported by women. I'm mostly just wondering why they don't look harder for people who earn the same amount they do.
Sincerely,
a DINK who doesn't understand gender issues
P.S. It was either this or a long list of the petty little things I'm grouchy about today. Cooking artichokes, grrrrr, so not worth it.
Give me your theories on why men don't generally seek out women who are high earners. I am, of course, talking about the heterosexual dating scene in the USA, there being lots of other dating scenes but none that affect me and my friends quite so directly.
The argument for a spouse (mate, partner) who brings home the bacon is pretty obvious, right? If both of you bring home the bacon, then the two of you have double bacon. Each of you can live in a strange but lovely world where all joint purchases are half-price, because you buy them together. If either one of you brings home enough bacon then the other can work less or even stay at home -- but the case I'm mostly thinking about is someone who already works, and looking for someone else to be with. Women instinctively seem to understand my bacon-math... men, well, the guys I'm thinking of could be trying to date people who earn what they earn, but they're not.
Theory #1 (from a friend) is that men want to be taken care of -- so they want someone who has time to make them a high priority, and who isn't super stressed about her own work. This is reasonable enough, but it doesn't seem like it needs to be gender-specific. After all, I like being petted and made a priority too.
What gives, boys? I'm not even asking why men don't want to be supported by women. I'm mostly just wondering why they don't look harder for people who earn the same amount they do.
Sincerely,
a DINK who doesn't understand gender issues
P.S. It was either this or a long list of the petty little things I'm grouchy about today. Cooking artichokes, grrrrr, so not worth it.
